HNT- 9

I know that I should be posting more... but I have daughters in and entering puberty and this week they have sucked every sexual impulse from me.... That being said... I do have another lovely (cough) selection which I think looks like a shot of the moon. I am not quite sure how I got my body to look like a planet... but I guess I have to go with it!

Happy HNT!

Should I have the ranch dressing?

Does my tuna have too much mercury? Maybe I should call Bill... Well at least I have his numbers now...

I saw this cartoon last week on Salon. Now it is being offered by the artist, Stephanie McMillan for auction on Ebay. The proceeds of this auction will go to Planned Parenthood of Minnesota, North Dakota and South Dakota and the Oglala Sioux Tribe of Pine Ridge, South Dakota. Thanks to the Smart Bitches for keeping me informed!

HNT- 8

Surprisingly enough, I took this picture as part of a series that I did on my scars.... But I liked the contrast of light and dark and the weirdness of the stray hair...

Hope you all enjoy!

MEN online and other complaints

What is wrong with them?

At least 3 times a week I get an IM or email from a man that I don't know who has seen my blog or a picture of me elsewhere and wants to start up a chat or more... usually they want to exchange phone numbers without sending me a picture of themselves in return. When I explain that I never exchange personal information with a person that I can not confirm as an actual human being, I always meet with opposition.

WHY?

Do they see the internet as a cafeteria of women from whom they can select. A human auto-mat that they can select from at will?

Maybe, I have selection requirements as well. Maybe they are really simple ones, like:

Don't tell me I am hot. At best you will appear insincere given the fact that there are about jillion hot young things online and I am a 40 year old, flabby, saggy mother of two. At worst, you will appear to think that I am either desperate or an idiot. Trust me, I know that I often complain that I am lonely on this site. That doesn't mean that I don't think I could have companionship if I really wanted it. I know that I can. But I am unwilling to chat with just anyone, let alone fuck them.

Don't tell me that you don't have picture of yourself online. Everyone with a cellphone these days has the ability to get a digital picture of themselves. That means pretty much all of the population over the age of 12. And if you are married and have kids? Please! It is almost a law that you will have a camera. It sounds like a lie when you tell me that you don't... and chances are it is.

Don't tell me that you can't risk having your picture posted on the internet. There are a bunch of reasons for this one.. a. You are suggesting that I am running some sort of porn site... Hey buddy... you contacted me! I never post pictures of the of other people and frankly that is a risk that I have taken too. b. You are suggesting that you have more to lose through an online chat with me - you don't and suggesting otherwise seems egotistical. c. If your life is really that complicated, I don't want to be sucked into it. So keep your mobster in-laws or burgeoning political career to yourself.

Don't give me a written description of yourself with the caveat that I won't be disappointed. Maybe... maybe not. You got look me over and think about whether to send me a message. Please give me the same courtesy.

The fact of the matter is that I am very reasonable. I might chat with you for a moment if I am bored, but I am not going to want a further conversation and I have no intention of EVER meeting you. No matter how innocent the intention. That is E-V-E-R. I ask for very little, if you won't comply with it you make me very nervous.

End of Story.

Afternoon daydreams

I am fantasizing about rug burns and mail slots and hot kisses. Aren't you?

Happy O'HNT!

I know that we were supposed to go with a St. Patrick's Day theme... But as you can see, my green is built in... Is that a sign that I am really Irish or is it my pink skin and red nose also?

Ummmm

I am goofing around with my blog settings, by the way...


So please let me know if you are having problems see it.

Thanks.

Do I have too many toys?

Hmmm, does this mean I have too many toys? Or too much imagination?



Love IT! Love the feathers! Love the taste!



Too pinchy. I know that they can be adjusted. But so far, I have been unable to find the perfect setting.





Liked these... the problem is that the string of pearls was not long enough. Since my breasts are bigger... my nipples are not 4 inches from each other.... You do the math....





Tasty and fun.... I enjoy these on my clit too...








This last one, rarely gets used... Why? Because I need someone to tie up (or to tie me up) Sigh.

Toy Inventory....

Funny that you should mention it, Dick....

But I have just received a gift certificate to my favorite toy store... and was to decide what was the best option... I guess, I will have to make a listing of the toys that I have already and see what you and anyone else who wants to add their two cents thinks that I need.

I have this one... but the sleeve is a purple jelly... very nice, utility piece.







I keep going through these... The one I have currently is nice and thick, but frankly the edge of the glans is a bit rough and a bit annoying.. a smoother, rounder edge would have nice. The problem for me is that I keep going through these toys. I like the ones that have the faux skin, but they get a bit nasty after a while and change shape if left in a less than ideal position. So, yes, I am saying that I have worn out my sex toys. And yes, I know that is the saddest thing ever.


But not as sad as what happened to this toy.... I burned out the motor on this one. After a blasting orgasm. And yes, I passed right out with the thing still in me..




I know that this is supposed to be the absolute best... but honestly, it doesn't do much for me.




This can be fun. I have tried a variety of balls and eggs... this is definitely the best. No scratchy edges, or the oops of something falling out. The only complaint is that the connector, while smooth... sometimes folds up and pinches...



Came free with an order... cold plastic. Does the job... Ironically, I have never installed batteries in this puppy.

Where is the line?

How much more do I have to share with my girls?

I know that they are getting older and trying to find their place in the universe.

But they are crossing the line. Already they are taking my clothes, my makeup, my jewelry...

What is going to be next?

The contents of my toy basket? The line must be drawn in the sand!

South Dakota has been Napolied

As a nerdy child, I was entranced gothic novels. The creepy castles and dreary moors were always filled with intrigue and danger from both mortal and more mysterious sources. And of course, the heroine was always trying to marry well or at very least avoid a fate worse then death.

A Fate Worse Than Death.... Silly when you hear about it now.. A Fate Worse Than Death was the loss of your virginity before marriage. In the olden days we know that women were shunned, marginalized and otherwise treated foully for defying convention and having sex... or worse, bearing a child out of wedlock. A woman might be able to avoid trouble if she didn't get pregnant... but if she did? Well, I guess she got what she deserved, right?

We all know that back in the Good Olde Days that scandal could be averted if the girl just married her seducer. And of course, we want a return to the good olde days, don't we?

Sure... Of course, that assumes that the man is willing to take responsibility for his actions. There is and was nothing requiring HIM to be compelled to accept his duty. After all, whatever scandal may come to pass doesn't effect him. He can leave the community and start anew. But a pregnant unmarried woman... well, no matter where she goes... she will carry the stain of her "shame" whether it was her shame or not.

What if he raped her? Well I guess she should have fought harder. As we know, in the good olde days, there was no way to prove that she was even a victim of a rape. All he had to do was deny the charge or worse, justify his behavior be demonstrating that the victim was lewd or otherwise behaving inappropriately. It was all very simple. For him at least. He has the power. He has the control over the entire situation.

In South Dakota, where a law banning virtually all abortions has been passed has a law maker that summed it up this way....

BILL NAPOLI: When I was growing up here in the wild west, if a young man got a girl pregnant out of wedlock, they got married, and the whole darned neighborhood was involved in that wedding. I mean, you just didn't allow that sort of thing to happen, you know? I mean, they wanted that child to be brought up in a home with two parents, you know, that whole story. And so I happen to believe that can happen again.

Charming, eh? Yes, let's marry a rape victim off to her abuser... There is a Norman Rockwell portrait for you. Well the child has two parents so I guess that is for the best. Never mind that any such marriage is likely to come with additional abuse and the child itself may become a victim of it as well.

And of course, we assume that the man was free to marry his victim. What if he was already married or worse, a relative? Well, that level of scandal was always hushed up in the good olde days. For the sake of the delicate ears of us ladies.

Shame, blame and scandal... A Fate Worse Than Death, indeed.

But we don't live in the Good Olde Days. We live in the modern world of here and now. Where we (at least more often) prosecute rapists to the fullest extent of the law and not the victims. We protect children from incest. And we have had a way to keep a girl from suffering the most obvious secondary trauma of a rape or incest related pregnancy.

She could be offered an abortion.

Is this a way to clear the slate and make everything all right again? Absolutely not. But does it stop the continued physical suffering of the rape and incest victim. By removing the chance of physical injury related to a pregnancy (higher in younger victims).

Clearly the people of the great state of South Dakota are big thinkers... so clever to send us back to the notions of the past that have been completely blinded to the obvious problems with their thought processes. Like forced marriage and forced pregnancy...

When asked if he could foresee a situation that was worthy of an exception to the law:

BILL NAPOLI: A real-life description to me would be a rape victim, brutally raped, savaged. The girl was a virgin. She was religious. She planned on saving her virginity until she was married. She was brutalized and raped, sodomized as bad as you can possibly make it, and is impregnated. I mean, that girl could be so messed up, physically and psychologically, that carrying that child could very well threaten her life.

Soooo basically, to deserve the mercy of the State of South Dakota a girl needs to be religious, virtuous and somewhat unstable. Even married, religious and unstable women don't rate an exception. Well I guess if you have ever had sex, rape is less traumatic. Or at least that is what Mr. Napoli seems to believe.

During the period 1999-2003, eighty-three (83) women in South Dakota had abortions due to rape or incest. A small number given the nearly 5,400 abortions performed in the state during the same period. But that number is larger than the number performed to preserve the life and health than the mother (67). But South Dakota has decided that these women and girls should be forced to carry these children to term... unless they can prove their virtue, piety and mental state. (statistics from South Dakota Department of Health, "Induced Abortion," Nov. 2004, in 2003 South Dakota Vital Statistics Report: A State and County Comparison of Leading Health Indicators, on line at South Dakota Department of Health [http://www.state.sd.us/doh/Stats/10-InducedAbortion.pdf].)

What happens to these children once they are born is anyone's guess. I would suggest adoption, but we are all aware that a child can't be put up for adoption without the consent of the father. So without the consent of a rapist a child must stay with its mother or be abandoned to the foster care system which currently services nearly 1,400 other children. And we know that those kids get only the VERY best treatment. (statistics from the Children's Defense Fund, www.childrensdefense.org)

I wish that State's like South Dakota would concentrate on improving the lives of the children already living and breathing in their state. But this has been an exceptionally low priority for the state. According to their own statistics there are currently 41,800 child support cases in South Dakota. Only 7,800 are in the collection phase. (Statistics from South Dakota Division of Child Support www.state.sd.us/social/CSE/index.htm)

Unfortunately, South Dakota feels compelled to micro-manage the lives of its most desperate and victimized citizens. A shame when you consider how much more important work needs to be done.

Other South Dakota highlights (from Children's Defense Fund, www.childrensdefense.org):

• Number of children who were victims of abuse and neglect 3,961
• Number of children adopted from foster care 145 (that is only about 10%)
• Number of grandparents raising their grandchildren 2,625
• Percent of fourth graders reading below grade level 67%
• Percent of fourth graders below grade level in math 66%
• Number of children without health insurance 18,000
• Percent of two-year-olds who are not fully immunized 20.1%
• South Dakota ranks 31st among states in infant mortality.
• South Dakota ranks 34th among states in the percent of children who are poor.
• South Dakota ranks 44th among states in per pupil expenditures.
• South Dakota ranks 46th among states in the percent of babies born to mothers who received early prenatal care.

Tags: bill napoli, napolied incest, rape, South Dakota, Fate worse than death, abortion

Happy HNT

I saw a posting on Figleaf this week about scars and how the are the badges of honor that we carry from our life experiences.

To that end, I present two of my life experiences encompassed on one knee.

The mark at the top (according to my mother) is my first boo boo. Why do these injuries always scar? I know in the case of both my girls they have.

The scar below I received when rushing to get my Dad's car ready for the family to go to a drive-in movie. (Yes, I grew up rural, poor and starved for entertainment.... what of it? It was the '70's) I got this little charmer while I was pulling out the CB-radio (see comment above, ok?)

I saw this little game online this morning and thought I would give it a whirl...

You type in you name onto Google... and then a verb...most people used wants and needs... they were fun. But I thought I would have some more fun.

I was certainly amused with the results:

• LushlyMe desires you to send her a little of your Beauty
• which is why Ben, perversely, not only understands LushlyMe's desire but grudgingly accepts it
• After relating their experiences with LushlyMe's desire for a horse of her own, they discuss
• LushlyMe's desire to sleep with Sheffield
• LushlyMen desire to come out of her shell more LushlyMe seemed to be happening almost as easily as those orgasms
• LushlyMe kisses his lips
• LushlyMe's kisses, when she was in the mood, made conversation impossible.
• LushlyMe kisses him and tells him goodbye.
• LushlyMe kisses her way back down your chin, neck, chest until she has one of your peaches in one hand and her mouth around the nipple that tops the other.
• LushlyMe licks his drops of cum right off the top of her breasts.
• LushlyMe licks her lips as you watch her eyes follow the path the juice takes.
• Busty LushlyMe licks pussy
• LushlyMe eats her special breakfast early this morning.
• LushlyMe makes him a tempting offer
• I am amazed at how fast LushlyMe makes things happen!
• LushlyMe makes an impression on you
• LushlyMe makes more money
• LushlyMe feels the time is ripe for mutual efforts

(obviously you won't find this options using lushlyme.... but you will with my real name...)

BOF-6

What is the deal with the wispy half finished dresses.... and to little color or too bloody much?

BOF-5

Didn't we learn in the '80's to avoid bows bigger than our heads?

BOF-4

I don't know... this looks like her boobs are half way to her knees... that dress sits so low, it is practically a skirt

BOF-3

The horrors!

BOF-2

The bondage dress...

BOF-1

I saw several pictures of this woman... in every one she has the same constipated look on her face... who pee'd in her cornflakes.

Ok... not an example of bad Oscar fashion.... unless you think that your aren't dressed until you wear a smile.

Bad Oscar Fashion

I love the Academy Awards... because I see so many movies... well I don't go to them anyway...but I love to see beautiful people make tragically bad fashion choices. Is this bitchy? Absolutely. But as someone who has heard comments about my looks from unwanted sources all my life, I feel compelled to say.. tough shit.

These were some of the thoughts that I had about this years Oscar fashions.. obviously in reverse order.. because I didn't plan this well...ooops

Hmmm I have questions about the accuracy of this one!

Your Five Variable Love Profile

Propensity for Monogamy: Your propensity for monogamy is low. You see love as a gift that you should give to many. It's hard for you to imagine being with one person at at time... Let alone one person for the rest of your life! Experience Level: Your experience level is high. You've loved, lost, and loved again. You have had a wide range of love experiences. And when the real thing comes along, you know it! Dominance: Your dominance is low. This doesn't mean you're a doormat, just balanced. You know a relationship is not about getting your way. And you love to give your sweetie a lot of freedom. Cynicism: Your cynicism is low. You are an eternal optimist when it comes to love and romance. No matter how many times you've been hurt - you're never bitter. You believe in one true love, your perfect soulmate. And if you haven't found true love yet, you know you will soon. Independence: Your independence is medium. In relationships, you need both "me time" and "we time." You usually find it easy to be part of a couple. But occasionally you start to feel a little smothered.

The Five Variable Love Test

Eternal optimist? I don't think so!

Happy HNT

My entries have been kind of wordy in my own geeky/weird way... I am glad to post something simple..

Government and Religion

I don't know why I do this... but I love to go to the blogger sign in page and click on the blogs of note or those recently updated. Sometimes they are inane in a completely harmless way. Sometimes they are amusing. And sometimes they give me insights into the thoughts of other folks out there in the world.

Today was one of those days.

Today, I found a blog called, Traditional Catholic Interests, which is written by a person who refers to him/herself as Sgnofcross. Sign of the Cross seems a bit presumptious to me... but I am a sinner, I guess I don't understand.

This blogger was applauding the State of Mississippi following suit with the State of South Dakota in banning most abortions, including those performed in cases of rape and incest. Sgnofcross states:

Thank God there seems to be a growing trend in this country to end abortion....Keep praying that one day all abortion will come to an end and that all will be open to God's plan of life.

As a former good Catholic girl, I have found issues with the abortion issue, especially when it comes to U.S. law and told him/her so. I am including my comments here:

Doesn't God's plan of life require the consent of the woman involved? Mary assented to carry Jesus. Of coure, Mary was born by immaculate conception and the rest of us women aren't but that certainly isn't our fault.

So your glee at the lack of an exception for rape and incest cases runs contrary to God's plan as I understand it. And does this mean that rapists are heretics for assuming rights that even God doesn't presume?

I appreciate the idea of a woman's sacrifice on the part of an unwanted child in terms of giving the child up for adoption, let's not presume for a moment that a woman would ever be free from the child at the moment of the adoption. We have all heard stories of adopting children coming back to find their birth mothers. A rape victim that gives her child up for adoption would always live with the spector of that child coming and knock on her door every day of her life. The rapist then continues to be able to victimize her in that way.

And sacrifice itself requires that a person has the choice to do something differently. You remove that choice, you remove the essence of the sacrifice and the accompanying grace that should come with it.

When push comes to shove, free choice is the requirement of faith and morality. Anything else is tyranny.

Now, I understand that there is an argument to be made that two wrongs don't make a right. And I agree that this is true. But we are assuming that the child will actually be born alive if no abortion is performed. I contend that only God would know this.

Additionally, there has always been an exception to the commandment about not killing. Killing in self defense has been allowed as has during times of war. An abortion in the case of rape or incest would certainly be self-defense. Saving a woman from being imprisoned in her own body at the will of another and the possibility of further injury and death which are all possible outcomes of childbirth.

As I recall my catechism from childhood, there is no such thing as "innocent" life in the Catholic Church. We have been born with the stain of sin. Except the Blessed Virgin who alone was born of an Immaculate Conception. Who's sin is greater is for God alone to judge.

Government is not in the business of saving the immortal soul of me or any other person. That is because in the U.S. all religions and the lack thereof are to be protected and cherished.

So while people may argue is sinful that is not an issue for government to undertake. That is a question of faith and religion.. not secular government.

And while two wrongs may not make a right, it certainly equals parity.