Questions

Are we right for assuming that a marriage can stay happy forever.

Throughout history, marriage was about protection for women or the transfer of property. Love and romance were never considered something that was expected. These things could be found, discretely outside of marriage if one was lucky or rich enough to be able to flaunt the rules.

Years ago, I though that I would have a marriage would be happy and last... sucker that I was. Now I am finding myself, in a platonic relationship. I feel more like a servant than wife. I used to try to work extra hard to keep the lines of communication between us open. I used to try to be agreeable to things that he was interested in to keep the connection. I stopped a while ago. I stopped trying to jump him. I got tired being told no, that he was tired. I take care of my own sexual needs at this point. He doesn't even seem to notice. He doesn't notice that I am not angry that this relationship is disintegrating. He doesn't ask why. or even that is collapsing.

I am not sure what to do anymore. I would prefer to be more honest. But I am not sure that it would get me anywhere. I am feeling lonely and lost.